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Talking to fridges.....

  • By girly-d
  • On 22/02/2018

A friend of mine is writing a book - A compilation of personal accounts centred around the #metoo hashtag.

We share this in common, my friend and I. We've both experienced the devastation of rape, but thankfully, years later we've worked our way through it and come out on the other side.

We were chatting online. We talked about the book; discussed our own experiences, and  I asked her if she had ever had counselling. After a minutes hesitation, her reply was "No.....unless you count talking to the fridge".......

Which she'd obviously been doing and which clearly seemed to work for her at the time.

It made perfect sense. Because the idea of my friend talking to that fridge was an absolute lightbulb moment. For reasons I've outlined below.

You see, a fridge is designed with a door that can be opened 24 hours a day, meaning that it's always there when you need it - anytime, night or day.  A fridge can't it can't "give advice" or interrupt you mid-flow.  It can't walk it's not going to get up and leave halfway through your conversation. Its job is to basically chill the wine and keep hold of the chocolate for when you've finished off-loading and need consolation....

It's the perfect tool for the job.....

Because rape and sexual trauma of any kind can be devastating. It blows you apart.

The thought of talking about anyone, professional or otherwise can be a terrifying prospect. Especially in the early stages when you are still trying to process it all.

And talking does help. Long and short-term counselling can help you make sense of it all. To break it all down into tiny, manageable pieces that you can process and eventually work through one bit at a time. So that you don't get overwhelmed and lost in it all.

But until you are ready to take that step, maybe follow my friends lead.....Talk to the fridge, the cooker, the microwave.....the cupboard door, the bathroom taps, your cat, the neighbours cat....

Whatever you choose is fine. It's not important. What is important is that you start to get it out of your head.

So if this is you, and you are reading this.... 

Just talk......

And when you are really ready, stop talking to the fridge and ask for support....because I promise you it's out there, and that you will get through this.

Like my friend did. Like I have.




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