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Kintsugi...

  • By girly-d
  • On 16/04/2019
  • 2 comments

Cathy Rentzenbrink’s incredible book “A Manual for Heartache” talks about the Japanese art of Kintsugi...repairing chips or cracks in objects with gold, so that they stand out and shine, themselves becoming things of beauty,  rather than hidden flaws that fade back into the background.

Its a beautiful concept...and if I could offer you one piece of advice from me to you today, it would be this...take a good, long, hard look at yourself in the mirror as soon as you possibly can, and start painting over your own cracks with gold.

I promise that it will change the way you see yourself forever.

I bought the book for my boyfriend. He was grieving. I thought that it would help him, but as I read her story of loss, loneliness and spiralling mental health, I realised that it was me who needed to hear her message.

Because not all that long ago, I had a mental break-down. 

Years of feeling “not quite good enough” combined with a horrific year caused me to lose sight of who I was, drove me to addiction, and left me an alcoholic, emaciated wreck, scared of her own shadow.

I looked and lived like a tramp, and had no self-respect or self-esteem.

I wanted to die, and to be fair, I very nearly did...it took a stay in hospital, followed by months in detox and finally rehab, to get me resembling anything near part-functioning human again. 

My recovery was hard, involving much gritting of teeth, endless soul-searching and pretty much around the clock slaying of demons...but it worked, I saw myself in a whole new light, and as I walked out of rehab, I promised myself that I would never, ever, ever treat myself that badly again.

And I haven’t, I don’t.

I treat myself with respect, and give myself credit for the journey I have been on.

I even kind of like myself...

So this is my Kintsugi...every blog, every podcast, every film, discussion or magazine feature...these are my bits of gold...each portrays a scar, a flaw, a memory or whatever.

I wear them all with pride.

Every single one of them.

Addiction broke and disfigured me.

Kintsugi shows me that I’m beautiful...just the way I am.

So thank you Cathy. For your incredible book, and for showing me a different way of doing things...

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  • Alex
    • 1. Alex On 23/04/2019
    I too am on the journey to rediscover who I am. 19 years of alcoholism, highly functional, but the bottom still found me. I'll be coming up on a year sober first of May. It's been harder than I had expected, like sharing my mind with a stranger. In many ways the journey has just begun. Thank you for what you do.
    Cheers.
    Alex
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