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People say that I'm cold at times.

At work, I'm known as "The Ice Queen".

I turn up, do my job well (which is probably why I still have one) and quietly count down the hours until I can get the fuck out of dodge and make my way back home.

 I speak if I'm spoken to, but most of my conversations these days I have with my cat...I don't mind, and he seems to like it, so it's an arrangement that suits us both it would seem.

But here's the thing that people don't realise; I didn't ever plan to be
 "Cold", it  wasn't something I aimed for or ever aspired to - back in the day, before PTSD hit, I  was funny and witty and clever and kind, it's just that somehow, somewhere along the way, after one too many kicks in the teeth, sometimes you just " get"  cold …and then you find you can't warm up.

You get spiky, angry, protective, defensive...you forget how to just "be" with people, and so you in the end you just don't mix.

And people around you call you weird, or think that you're a witch because all you seem to do these days is stay at home with your cat (because that's where you feel safe, and anyway, that cat is all you have)

They don't know the half of it.

Because weeks, months, and years of total headfuckery is enough to freeze even  the warmest of hearts, so its  hardly surprising then that one day " Poof!"...before you know it, old happy, carefree you is gone, and suddenly you're standing in a garden with a scarf around your neck, waiting for someone to stick a carrot on your face…

I remember our first conversation with absolute clarity.

We'd seen each other around for months, always saying "Hi"... only I was always sat with my friends while he would be sat alone in the corner and  so we never quite got around to  having a conversation.

Until then one day we did...

I was by myself for once, sat outside a bar, consumed in whatever trivia it was that I was wrestling with  that day, kicking my converse back against the table leg while he stood over in the doorway, smoking his cigarette and watching me. He caught my eye, asked me if I was ok, then he bought me a drink and came over to join me...and the rest, as they say, is history.

From day one I was absolutely, hand-on-heart, head-over-heels besotted. 

I adored him and he adored me and I thought that I'd found the love of my life.

And now, nearly two years down the line I would still love  to think that...because way back there in the beginning, just for a little while, he was, and so it just doesn't seem right that this story ends any other way than with a happy ending.

Only it does and it did.

You see a lot of water has gone under the bridge since he sat with me that day, and I'm a little bit older and wiser now...which means that I can't keep on lying to myself and everyone around me.

I don't want to keep on lying to myself.

Its time to face the facts...every shitty, single last one of them.

And the truth is going to hurt.